A lot of scary words start with the letter ‘V’… Voldemort, vampires, venereal disease (you should really get the last one checked out).
And for many, ‘Valentine’s’ is also right up there. Whether single or attached, many people see it as a terrifying day to well, DO SOMETHING – spend money, profess unrequited love, have sex, eat your body weight in ice cream.
It’s widely known that it’s just another commercial opportunity for retailers to laugh all the way to the bank. But despite this, most people still can’t help but feel pressure to get it right.
Odd as it may be, I’ve always enjoyed the BIG V. Whatever my relationship status, it’s a nice opportunity to celebrate the existence of those I love, whilst saving a little bit of love for me too (pizza and wine, feeling fine).
When a single friend was asked why she got so excited about Valentine’s Day when she didn’t have a boyfriend, she responded ‘Why on earth would I not be? Any excuse to party’.
Someone not in a relationship enjoying Valentine’s Day? Oh my days. Thing is, the word ‘single’ is not always used positively – it’s usually preceded by its long-term lover, STILL. Still single? Poor you.
Even Dean Martin agrees that you’re nobody ’til somebody loves you.
Brown’s Hotel in Mayfair recently launched their ‘Anti-Valentine’s Day’ spa treats for one. ‘How forward-thinking!’ I mused, ‘finally single people can enjoy spas too!’. That was until I read the some of the descriptions: Lonely Legs Pedicure for the hefty price of £55, or the Too Pretty To Be Single Facial for a casual £100.
Yes you can have a nice face and nice feet, but you’ll be judged just a little bit too.
Since when was loneliness guaranteed or your ‘prettiness’ defined by if you have a partner or not?
Hey now, let us not forget that even Adolf Hitler was married… so being attached or not doesn’t always indicate your level of worthiness.
If you’re lucky enough to have someone in your life that makes you want to dry hump, then good for you. Get them to buy you chocolate.
But if not, well, whatever any advertising campaign tells you, single is not a dirty word.